Self-Coaching Makes Anything Possible!

Finishing up my series on self-coaching! It's a wonderful way to reach your goals and challenge yourself! Regardless of what you want to accomplish, regardless of where you are in life, you can create more of what you want!

I even used it to become an author and an artist! Two things I always dreamed of doing but never thought I could accomplish them.

I wanted to hold my book and see it on my bookshelf.

I love to read. I am a certified bibliophile! So I always dreamed of being an author one day. A dream out of reach for a poor kid from the wrong side of town, or so I thought. But on my 59th birthday, my book was published! How?

I was fortunate enough to have someone tell me to stop dreaming of writing the great American novel and to just write what I knew. Those words stuck with me. Write what I knew. I could do that! I coached myself through the process of writing my first book. And then I talked myself into reaching out to an editor I knew.

And when a friend offered to introduce me to a publisher I coached myself through learning about publishing contracts and royalties so I could speak with him from a position of strength and knowledge.

Within a few months, I was able to proudly release my first book, thanks to my self-coaching skills.

Did you know I'm an artist/designer?

My mother was an artist. My sister can draw. My daughter and grandson can draw. Unfortunately, the artistic gene bypassed me completely! I can't even draw stick figures! But I still loved to doodle and paint. I dreamed of being an artist or designer. even though I was awful!

Then one day while I was online, I discovered Canva. So now at least, I could create professional looking images for my business.

But then I discovered the glories of print-on-demand. I could upload my creations from Canva and have them printed on various products. Then I would get to keep a portion of the profits.

I coached myself through the start up process and chose a brand name. I picked five of my favorite images and put them up online. The sales started trickling in slowly but after a year, it became another viable income stream. And I am doing something I love. Creating art!

There's nothing like the thrill of achieving a dream and realizing YOU made it all happen.

With self-coaching there are no limits! You can do anything you choose to do.

My Top 3 Most Effective Self-Coaching Techniques

Do you need some self-coaching ideas? Try using one of these techniques to motivate and encourage yourself

The 4 Whys

This is a great coaching method to use when you encounter a problem or setback. It involves stating the problem then asking why several times in order to get to the root of the issue so you can correct it. In fact, in the Navy, we called a similar technique "root cause analysis." For example the 4 Whys might look like this for you:

Problem: I can't start my business

• Why? Because I don't have a website.
• Why? I don't know how to build a website.
• Why? I have never taken a course in web design.
• Why? I don't know where such a course is offered.

As you can see, this helps you establish the cause (a lack of knowledge) and come up with a plan to overcome it (take a web design class, of course!)  Of course, keep in mind that some problems require you to ask "why" more than 4-5 times. So you may may have to experiment with this technique before you get to the root of your problem.

Affirmations

Affirmations can be a useful self-coaching strategy if you struggle with negative thoughts about yourself. For example, you might regularly think things like :   

• I'm dumb
• I'm ugly
• I'm useless
• I'm a failure
• I'm worthless

These thoughts don't serve you. They are no helping you reach your goals and what's more, they're holding you back from stepping into your full potential. In order to overcome these thoughts, you need to replace them with positive affirmations. A few good ones to start with are:

• I can create what I want
• I am a beautiful masterpiece.
• My life has value and meaning
• I am worthy of love and respect
• My feelings matter

The nest time you hear a negative thought, try repeating a positive affirmation.

Reframe It

You can't always change a situation you find yourself in. But you can always change your perspective of that situation. For example, you might be in a difficult spot financially and unable to change it for one reason or another, 

But you can alter your though pattern. You might say, "I don't make enough money!" This thought creates stress and invites lack into your life. Instead, try reframing the situation by saying, "I make enough money to keep the lights on and I choose to embrace abundance!"

Coaching yourself can be easy once you know the techniques to use. At first, it may seem odd to practice these tips. But as you begin to rely on them more often, you'll open your mind...and your heart...to the beautiful truth of who you are.  

P.S. You don't need a website to start a business. All you need is a phone or a computer, an idea, and the courage to give it a go.                    

Are You Tired of Wondering Who Will Buy Your Stuff?

I know most of you are great at teaching your craft, creating your content, and putting together your offers. But you still struggle with getting people to see what you have.

Let's face it. You need more traffic!

Do you want a quicker way to connect with more of your target market? The answer just might be a virtual workshop.

I love workshops! Why? Because they make it easy to fill my courses and programs. They are quick to prepare. You can have one ready for pimetime in 2 weeks or less! They don't require a lot of time. A 90 minute workshop is all it takes. They are FUN to host. (At least when I host them!). They build trust and authority with your ideal customer.

I have used workshops to generate leads and sales for years. I teach my clients to do the same. So I do know a little bit about the exact steps you need to take to create an amazing experience. There are 7 of them, to be exact.

I'll be teaching those along with all the other aspects of multi-channel marketing to the Rebel Tribe. If you're not a member, now would be a good time to ask me about it.

 

Most of You Don't...

Do you have a system in your business? A way to generate leads? A page to capture them with? Do you have an autoresponder connected to that page so you can communicate with them? Do you have a good set of follow up letters or the ability to write yourself?

Or are you just wandering social media hoping that somebody miraculously buys from you?

You may not want to hear this but it just doesn't work that way. ALL successful home business owners have a system.

Yeah...yeah....I know. When you signed up, your sponsor told the story about how some guy in your upline recruited a superstar at his very first meeting and is now getting rich.

Or you bought the hype...along with whatever new software package, tool, training, program...that all you had to do was press a few buttons and your business would make millions on autopilot.

Hate to tell you but that's all smoke and mirrors. One way or another you are going to have to learn some skills and have a way to generate leads and make sales.

I'd like to help you with that. And right now I am going to offer something VERY special. If you check out the newest addition to my long-term residual income streams, and get our new free app, I will personally help you set up your simple business system over the next 2 weeks.

We'll work on it together and we'll have it set up in minutes.

Not only will we set up your system, but you will be added to my VIP group where you will learn all you need to set up a lead generation machine any time you want.

Learning this one skill will change your business FOREVER.

AND if you love what you see and decide to join my team, I'll add you to our marketing group where not only will we teach you the skills, we'll provide you with all the marketing materials you need while you're learning.

September is the month to build your system! My goal is to set up 100 or more people with simple marketing systems that WORK. I want the industry to SEE that this stuff is fundamental. Once you see how simple this is you will bang your head against the wall in frustration over all the years spent on smoke and hype.

It's a money printing machine if you stay consistent.

I can show you what to do. You have to actually do it. But I will have you in a space where you get all the support you need. So go get your free app...even if you have no intention of joining me. Although I think you'll like what you see. Heck, you might even make some money!

Because your going to want to learn this stuff ASAP. I can only handle so many people so if you want this ACT NOW. I don't know anywhere you can learn basic marketing over a few hours without even joining or buying anything.

I've never done this before. So take advantage of me while I am on a mission. You've been looking for answers. I want to teach you what I learned eons ago that changed everything for me. It's a thought process. One that you want to acquire if you are serious about making serious money. Hope to see you. This is important.

Accountability in Self-Coaching: How Does It Work?

Do you love the idea of self-coaching? Are you worried about giving it a try? Are you wondering, “How do I coach myself effectively? Maybe if I self-coach I’ll end up letting myself off the hook.”

Well what you are looking for is accountability. It’s an important part of any coaching relationship. But with self-coaching, it’s easy to let yourself slide. Fortunately, there are a few things you can do to hold onto accountability…

Write Down Your Goals

The first step is to be open about what you’re trying to accomplish. If you’re not clear on what your goal is, self-coaching may not be a good fit for you at this time. You may need the help of a life coach to determine what your goals are.

If you know what you want to do, then write down that goal. You want to be specific while doing this. Don’t put down a vague goal like “earn more money” or “lose some weight”. Get honest with yourself here—do you want to earn an extra 20K this year? Are you working to lose 60 pounds?

The more specific you are, the easier accountability will be. That’s because you’ll be able to look back and see if you’ve achieved your goals or not.

Set Milestones

Once you know what your goal is, establish what the milestones are. Milestones are like rest stops. If you’ve ever traveled on a long road trip, then you know how refreshing a good stop can be. It gives you a chance to stretch your legs, fuel back up, and remind yourself why you were excited about the journey in the first place.

Tiny milestones tend to work best. So if your goal is to lose 60 pounds, then focus on losing the first 10. If you want to earn $20K extra this year, concentrate on making $2K first. With small milestones you feel like you’re making progress faster and you’ll be more energized to keep going.

Review Your Progress

An important part of accountability is stopping to look at your progress regularly. Every two to three months, have a check-in session. This is when you pull out your list of goals and your milestones. If you’re getting closer to your goal and hitting milestones, celebrate.

If you’re not making the progress you’d hoped to be, don’t use this as an excuse to shame or berate yourself. Instead, get curious. Ask yourself why you’re not reaching for this goal and be honest in your answer. Is it really that you don’t have time? Or is it that you’re not making it a priority?

Course Correct

As you review your progress toward your goals, you may spot problems. This is an excellent time to course correct. For example, if your goal is to write a book and you’re still on chapter one, you may realize that you need to build writing time into your schedule each day.

Reward Yourself

An important part of the self-coaching process is rewarding good behavior. When you reach a milestone or a goal, you need to give yourself positive feedback in the form of a reward.

This reward should match the accomplishment. You don’t want to give yourself a lavish $10K vacation cruise if your goal is to save money and invest it.

Instead, choose a reward that you find exciting and that represents your goal. For example, if your goal is to build your business then training or a tool to help you on your new path would make an excellent reward for reaching a business goal.

Accountability is necessary in every coaching relationship, especially when you’re self-coaching. It takes discipline and determination to reach your goals but you can do it if you’re committed to the process.

It Takes a Bit to Impress Me

I've been around the industry for a very long time. I've been with many different companies. I have seen it all. And not to sound snooty or anything but it does take a bit to get my attention. I'm just not easily impressed. There's so much noise and junk out there it's really hard to tell who to listen to or which products are actually worth a damn. So for me it's always about who can show me the goods and show me the money.

And it's not that I am all about money. But if you are running a network marketing business, isn't that what you are supposed to do? Offer products that actually work? That people actually want? So you can turn a profit? I've always thought so.

You probably heard me say last year that I was leaving network marketing. And I fully intended to. But a few weeks ago I was introduced to some new products and two new-to-me companies.

The products did appeal to me and my husband so we gave them a try and you know what?

They work. Just like they're supposed to.

Then I got invited to learn more about each company. (What can I say? My friends are network marketers!)

And you know what?

I'm impressed. Enough that I am back in the network marketing biz. Enough that I joined BOTH of them. Because finding a simple, stable program, run by real decent people, with a low cost entry fee, that I know will be there tomorrow....

Well, it's like finding a nice, quiet, safe place in a good neighborhood where you know it's safe to hang out. It's not near all the cool clubs where all the little wanna-be's gather, trying to look big. It's not trendy with inflated costs. It's quiet, stable, dependable, and safe.

Which is just how I like 'em. Maybe that's why I'm still here after all these years.

I did my time chasing trendy and new and discovered that it's a good way to to lose. That's why I now build multiple rock solid revenue streams in safe and reliable environments that do not take advantage of the new guy in order to make money.

I don't know what you are promoting right now...

But if you want to see the non-hypey, impressive, latest additions to my long-term residual income streams, than you can get a free promotional link to the first one so you can make money right away without spending a dime.

Do that HERE

The other one may not be for everybody. I admit, I never envisioned myself in this business. But after seeing what the products did for my husband, I couldn't say no.

There's a Zoom tonight if you want to hop on

I learned a long time ago...the hard way, unfortunately...that slick wasn't for me. I run a simple business with simple products and tools.

Building strong residuals takes time but you CAN make cash flow today. If you're new to the game I hope I can save you from some of the nonsense and heartache I experienced. If you have been through the wringer I hope you get off the merry-go-round and let me show you how simple it all can be.

I have two multi-levels. Various support tools. All create residual income. And when you understand how it all works, you make money every day from all the sources, it's like that magical easy button everyone is looking for. It's been right here all the time. And I am willing to show you.

Like I said, it takes a bit to impress me. THIS impressed me.

The Things They Teach You These Days

If you were in my VIP group last year, you were there for the discussion around positioning.

I have often spoken of the importance of positioning.

Positioning can catapult you forward in ways you can not imagine.

For example:

When social media was new I was one of a few "women of a certain age",

AKA "baby boomer", that was using it. My phone rang off the hook with other "boomers" wanting to know how I was learning it. Was it hard? Did it work?

And because of that, I built relationships that still stand...even 16 years later. I have trained their teams. They took my book to best-seller status. They have driven tons of business my way. All because of POSITIONING.

It's easy pickings because people want to work with those who are in the forefront. That's just human. And that's just positioning.

But then there's pandering.

Pandering is trying to convince or cajole.

Examples of PANDERING would be when someone takes a picture of themselves with a microphone and tries to convince people they are a speaker. Or posting pictures all over of themselves with the hottest business "gurus".

Or trying to show people how important they are because they're attending an event or eating dinner with someone of interest.

Pandering is when we are not demonstrating our skills but instead trying to capitalize on a person, place or circumstance to gain attention.

Pandering is taught by many in the industry. How many of you have been told to take a picture with all the big dogs in the business and post them everywhere?

Stand in front of the logo at an event and take a picture? Scream about your company and its products instead of promoting yourself?

But ask yourself...

Is that going to get you business? Or does it get the big dog business? Does it encourage someone to go to next year's event instead of hanging out with you? Does it build loyalty to a company that is not yours, that you don't own, and have no control over?

Kinda makes you go "hmmmmmmm"

Truth is that positioning is never about screaming about anything. It's not about bragging and manipulation. It's about execution and being known for something. It's about relationships. It's about being confident in what you have and what you know.

Proper positioning can explode your business and save you a ton of effort. Pandering can keep you stalled....forever.

So the next time you are tempted to jump up and down and shout, "Look at me! See me! See who I'm with! See what I'm doing!"

Ask yourself, " Am I positioned properly for now and for the future? Will what I am doing and saying today help me tomorrow? How are people seeing me? As a wanna-be trying to look big? Or as a confident professional?"

If you are in this for the long haul you want to think about these things and create true positioning that will carry you to the top much faster than you ever imagined.

This is the type of stuff I teach. I am not a coach. I am not a guru. I am a PERSONAL TRAINER. I am a MENTOR. I am not looking for tons of people. I am looking for the select few. The question is...are you one of them?

Positioning is everything. It's why the call me SAGE...keeper of knowledge, giver of wisdom. I didn't ask for that. It's just what they call me.

What will they call you?