It’s easy to get stuck in one place—maybe you’re stuck in a
job you hate or a relationship that’s keeping you from growing. Although it
won’t be easy, you can create the life you crave. Here are a few key ways to do
that…
Own Your
Intention
Just saying you’d like to do something different or wishing
for your life to change isn’t enough. If you truly want your life to look
different, you have to be specific and own your intention. For example, you
could say, “I want to move to Texas next year” or “I want to start my own
business in six months”.
Once you’re clear on what you desire, you can begin working
toward it. Many people explain that “things just fell into place” once they
knew what they wanted. That’s because the energy of your desire attracts what
you need to fulfill it.
Set Small
Goals
With your intention clarified, it’s time to begin setting
goals. It’s smart to keep these goals small and easily achievable. When I moved my dad to Arkansas, the first thing I did was clean out his apartment.
It’s OK if your goals seem very tiny at this stage.
Remember, each step is feeding into your larger goal. By creating a string of
tiny goals, you’re setting yourself up for easy victories. As you accomplish
more, you’ll start to gain momentum and before you know it, you’ll have
achieved your big goal.
Operate
from Power
When you set a goal, you will encounter obstacles and
setbacks. I was in the middle of finals week in college when I learned I had cancer. So I re-adjusted my plan to focus on my treatment and recovery and made arrangements to write papers from home while recovering as my final exams for classes where this was possible.
The important thing when you face these setbacks and
obstacles is that you operate from a place of power. It’s easy to let things
throw you off track and become a victim. For example, you might say, “I can
never start an online business because I never have the money” or “I can’t move
because my family isn’t supportive”.
Instead, shift your thinking and focus on how you can overcome
what’s holding you back. You might say, “Hmm, I can babysit a friend’s children
for $20 tonight and have the money to buy my domain name” or “I can begin
researching the safest neighborhoods in my new city to comfort my family and
bring them on board”.
Read
Inspiring Books
While you’re in the middle of making big changes in your
life, it can be helpful to read content that encourages and motivates you. A
wonderful book that you might find eye-opening in 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do.
One book that can help you hang on during the difficult
moments of a life change is Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance.
When you’re in need of a quick pep talk, read for You Are A Badass®: How to Stop Doubting
Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life.
