At a certain point in your network marketing career – after a
week, a month, or a year or so – you will have exhausted your immediate circle. You’ve hit up all the ladies in your church group; you’ve worked your
neighbors, and your kids’ teachers tell you that though they love what you sold
them, they really don’t need anything right now – nor do they want to host
another party for you. And no, they don't want to join your team. You’re stuck.
Instead of waiting for your current customers to run out of
whatever you’ve sold them or suddenly decide that yes, they want to join you, and right now!, you’ve got to break out of your small circle of influence. You need to push through to that next level to reach people you haven’t tapped
before. There are two main ways to do this:
- Look for “friends of friends,” or
- Find “strangers.”
Let’s talk about the
first method – getting referrals.
You may think that all your friends know the same people,
and to a certain extent, that’s true. The ladies at your church
all know each other, your neighbors all know each other, the teachers at school
all know each other. But I bet you know at least five people they don’t… and
vice-versa.
Think of the party game, “Six Degrees to Kevin Bacon.” If
everyone knew only the same people, that game wouldn’t be possible. Either it
would only take one degree to reach Mr. Footloose, or it wouldn’t be possible
at all. The same goes for the people you know, and the people THEY know. Think
about your college roommate, your next-door neighbor’s pet sitter, your
spouse’s officemates. These aren’t people in your direct circle, but they’re in
that next ring.
So how do you get to these people? You ask. Ask your
neighbor to introduce you to their pet sitter; ask your college roommate in the
next town over to introduce you to her
neighbors, ask your spouse’s workmates to broker an introduction with their
spouses and neighbors.
Tools online like Facebook and LinkedIn make this very easy, as you can see who your connections are
connected with. On LinkedIn, you can even request an introduction to a
particular person. The key is to see each person in your current network as a
bridge leading to many more circles. All you have to do is cross that bridge!
Now, let’s talk about
strangers.
When you were young, your mother probably warned you, “Never
talk to strangers!”
The problem is, many of us are still holding on to that
advice, twenty or thirty or forty or more years later! With all due respect to
your mom, you need to forget that advice right now. She gave you that advice –
and rightly so – when you were too young to protect yourself, or to be able to
judge between “nice” strangers and “bad” strangers.
As an adult, you must talk to strangers virtually every day:
The teller at the bank, the man holding the door open for you at the grocery
store, the customer service person at the cable company… these are all
“strangers.” Somehow we think it’s okay to talk to them in one way or setting,
but it’s not okay to speak to them about our business. Wrong!
If you want to make more money, you have to sell more. And
to sell more, you need to talk to more people about what you sell! It’s as
simple – and as easy – as that. If you think you can’t talk to strangers about
what you do, then you’re basically giving up on 99.99999 percent of the world.
Sure, it can be a little anxiety-producing. Here are some ways to make it
easier to talk to strangers:
- Assume the
best. It was the great Will Rogers who said, “A stranger is just a
friend I haven’t met yet.” How true! If you approach each interaction
expecting that the other person will be interested, or at least polite,
your anxiety will drop tremendously. Instead of telling yourself, “
- Take the
pressure off. You can make any interaction scarier by convincing
yourself that if the other person shuts you down, you’ll die. Instead,
minimize the encounter. Inviting them to hear more about your products or
business isn’t a life or death situation; think of it as offering them a
stick of gum. They may want one; they may not. It won’t kill you either
way.
- Play the
numbers. Most network marketing companies will give you a good sense of how
many “no” answers you can expect to receive before you get a “yes.” Each
time you approach a new person, remind yourself that it’s a win either
way. If they say “yes,” hurray! If they say “no,” you’re just one step
closer to your yes.
Expanding outside your limited circle doesn’t take any
particular skill or talent; it just takes commitment. Resolve to get introduced
to one new person a day, and to discover another new friend on your own. If you
do that each and every day, each week you’ll add 14 people to your circle – and
over the course of the year, your network will have grown by over 750
individuals! Now that can’t help but have an impact on your bottom line.