What Is Self-Coaching?
Self-coaching is the process of leading yourself through mindset shifts and habit breakthroughs to arrive at the next level. The definition sounds simple but the process can be complex. If you're like me and considering self-coaching, here are four big benefits of doing that.
Benefit #1: Learning to Trust Your Essence
Essence is who you are at your core. It's the purest form of your identity. It's the part of you that's truly authentic when everything else is stripped away. Unfortunately, most of us lose track of our essence at some point in our lives. This means that life decisions like where to live or what business to pursue become muddied and difficult to make.
But with self-coaching, you learn to push back against outer (and inner) resistance. You become more in tune with your values and what you want from life. That makes it easier for you to make choices that honor who you are.
Benefit #2: Changing Your Inner Talk
Many people struggle with a "mean girls" voice in their head. This ugly voice reminds you of all the ways you are falling short and why you're a failure. The inner talk may sound like a parent that criticized you constantly, a teacher that didn't support you, classmates or co-workers that bullied you, or a spouse that verbally abused you.
Regardless, inner talk that isn't loving and kind is harming you. With self-coaching, you learn to change the way you talk about yourself. Instead of saying cruel words over who you are, you begin speaking life and truth.
Benefit #3: Cultivating Curiosity
When you're not in touch with your essence and your inner talk is negative, there's not a lot of space to grow. You fear making mistakes or failing. So you spend the majority of your time settling for mediocrity.
But self-coaching gives you the tools to ask questions. No longer are you forced to view the choices you make as black and white or good and bad. Instead, you have permission and space to ask yourself questions. What do you want to crete more of? How would you like to experiment today? What do you want to learn more about?
Benefit #4: Taking Time to Pause
It's easy to get stuck in "reaction" mode. Someone cuts you off in traffic, you spill your coffee on your shirt, and you lock your keys in the card all in the same day. It's tempting to let these things take over and have your focus.
But with self-coaching, you create space to pause and reflect. Rather than reacting to what's happening, you can take a breath and create an action plan that doesn't revolve around reacting. It's so freeing and empowering to realize you can do this!
Self-coaching is a wonderful gift to give yourself. Your age doesn't matter. Your income level doesn't matter. It doesn't even matter if you've never coached anyone. You can become your very life coach today!
